The idea of talking to kids about sexual and reproductive health may seem awkward at first. But it is important to remember that kids are curious at all ages and may have many questions.
Talking with kids about sexual health comes with a lot of benefits. For instance, it can help them stay informed about sexually transmitted infections (STI), such as HIV. It can also educate them about family planning options, such as birth control.
Here are some tips to help you start conversations about sexual health with kids and how NJFPL can help.
When Should You Start Talking With Kids About Sexual Health?
You can talk about sex with kids of any age. But there are different ways to approach the topic based on their age.
Under 5 Years
Use the right words when talking about body parts, such as “penis” and “vagina,” instead of “pee-pee.” This can help kids avoid shame when talking about their body parts. It also supports a positive body image.
5 to 8 Years
This is a good age to start talking about what is and is not appropriate when it comes to sex. You may also want to tell them that being curious about their own body is normal. Encourage kids in this age group to speak up if a situation has made them uncomfortable.
9 to 12 Years
This is an ideal time to talk about puberty and the changes that come with it. Give kids a safe space and allow them to ask any questions they may have, even if they seem scared or nervous.
12 Years and Up
About 15% of teens are having sex by the age of 15. This is the best time to talk about birth control, STI screening, and ways to practice safer sex.
How Do I Start Conversations About Sex?
Look for the right moment to start a conversation. You could bring it up when a friend or relative says they are pregnant. Or you could bring it up when characters in a movie or TV show have sex.
Opportunities to talk about sex come up several times a day—you just need to be open about having the conversation.
How Do I Answer Kids’ Questions About Sex?
Be honest and straightforward when kids ask about sex. Try to anticipate what they might ask so you can prepare beforehand.
Some helpful tips for answering questions:
- Keep answers short and simple.
- Make sure they understand your answer.
- Look up information together if you do not know the answer.
Other tips when discussing sexual health:
- Share your own experiences about puberty from when you were a kid.
- Offer resources, such as the FAQ and Blog pages at NJFPL.
- Don’t use slang to describe body parts.
- Be relaxed, cool, and encouraging.
- Be a good listener.
- Ask them what questions they have.
At NJFPL, we understand the importance of taking control of your sexual health. Find a health center today to learn more about sexual health and many other services we offer.